Most times, many marriage relationship challenges are rooted in
blessings that are not well managed. Promising careers, good pay, rapid
promotion and better working conditions offer tempting opportunities for
extra-marital affairs and such can become a threat to relationships and
marriages.Office romance epidemic is one of the many pitfalls of
relationships. When spouses find it difficult to draw a line between
human affection and natural law of attraction, office romance springs
up. If care is not taken, it gets out of hand and leads to negative
consequences.
It is not surprising that proximity, travelling
together, long hours at work, etc oil office romance. Many spouses spend
much of their lives at work and end up sharing more time and intimacy
with their co-workers than their mates.
Apart from the fact that
this can ruin a very good relationship and turn you into a total
stranger to your family, you get to be the talk of the office community.
And no matter how you justify it, an office love affair can affect your
productivity level.
If you are single but in a steady
relationship headed for marriage, toying with an office fling could lead
to a life of marital agony, especially if your office lover is aware of
your relationship.
If you are married – whether you are happy in
the marriage or not – you should never consider office romance as an
option. You may think the grass is greener on the other side but trust
me, grass is grass whether in the valley or on the mountain top.
Why
must married spouses aim at dressing well to please someone at work?
Why must you linger in the parking lot hoping that a particular
co-worker will ask you out for lunch or take you shopping?
Before
you justify yourself and act defensively, ask yourself, “Can I do this
in front of my spouse?” “Can I show this text messages to my mate?’ ‘If
I’m caught with this co-worker, will I have to lie about our
involvement?” If you have to lie about it or not feel comfortable, then
it is best avoided.
It is not unexpected for a worker to feel
attracted to a colleague of the opposite sex and even harbour romantic
or sexual thoughts about them. When this is inevitable and obvious,
consider a transfer to a different department or branch or maybe you
should outrightly change job or quit.
No job is more valuable than
your marriage. It is easier for someone to think he or she is free
from an office affair but watch out for these signs.
*You are
friendlier with your colleague than your spouse; you day dream about
your fellow employee often; you are not interested in being sexually
intimate with your spouse; instead of enjoying passionate sex with your
spouse, you give excuses.
*You spend less time with your spouse
and give up everything just to be in the office. When confronted with
the apparent closeness with a fellow employee, you easily say, “we are
just friends.” You find yourself anticipating when you can talk to or be
with your colleague again.
*You prefer to share deep intimate
feelings and problems with your colleague rather than with your spouse
under the pretext that he or she understands you better than anyone
else.
*You find reasons to give him or her gifts; you are even
comfortable talking with him or her for hours and even deep into the
night.
*You tell yourself that the other person has a problem and
you are the only one he or she trusts to be there for him or her.
*Your
colleague seems to understand you better than your spouse does and you
can’t wait to hear his or her opinion on crucial personal issues.
*Hiding
under the excuse that your spouse is too judgmental, you keep your
friendship to this fellow employee a secret from your spouse.
These
signs are evidence that you are having an office affair. You may be
courting disaster in your relationship or marriage.
